Sexuality in menopause
Sexuality in menopause
For most, it starts creeping: from the love nights of the early days, nights of waking up in middle age with children's screams and times with too little sleep become far too much work. If you look forward from there, you will see hair loss, hormonal disorders and fading passion passing in front of your mental eye. Not a nice idea - and not necessary. But sexuality in menopause is often still a taboo subject for men and women. Since the menopause of women was considered a rather morbid event in the sixties, the search for appropriate therapy began.
Hormone replacement therapy
The researchers found hormone replacement therapy to compensate for natural estrogen deficiency. The aim of the therapy was to reduce hot flashes and discomfort and to reduce the risk of atherosclerosis and thus heart attack. In the meantime, hormone replacement therapy has come under heavy fire due to the demonstrably increased risk of cancer, and the affected women have to look for alternatives. One possible way out is treatment with so-called phytohormones, i.e. extracts derived from plants. But this therapy is not without controversy.
In men it is called anti-aging
While women have to deal with the latest results on hormone replacement therapy (HET), men's menopause with all its consequences is subsumed mainly under the keyword "anti-aging". This is mainly about the declining libido of men.
BlueChew and Co. have become a broad field of activity for "men's doctors" who want to fight not only wrinkles and hair loss with anti-aging. It is undisputed that healthy eating and exercise in all situations increase vitality and quality of life. Conversely, the different aspects of menopause also offer the opportunity to deal with his sexuality and that of his partner in a completely different way.
Also a new freedom
The absence of regular bleeding signals the end of fertility. Those who no longer have to worry about contraception can enjoy their sexuality more liberatedly. Especially in long-term partnerships, a great deal of familiarity with each other has developed at the time of the menopause. The partners know each other well: the best starting point for a new discovery with each other and a good opportunity to strip old habits and find one another.
The ability to orgasm is not affected by menopause, even if the reaction time after menopause increases somewhat. However, this phenomenon affects both men and women alike. The decisive factor is how the partners perceive themselves and what image they maintain of themselves.
Self-confidence makes you sexy
Of course, fatigue, lack of desire and hot flashes do not make you want wild sex. But touches, tenderness and intimacy do not depend on hormone status. The attitude to sexuality is much more important than the physical appearances. In numerous sexual psychology studies, for example, men were asked how they wanted their partner. And across all age limits, men said they valued confident women with a positive attitude to their sexuality.
Important: Proximity and familiarity
Living sexuality as a sign of closeness, familiarity and affection for each other is the key to a living partnership and a positive approach to oneself – as long as this sexuality is not overstated. It is crucial that men and women understand what they want. And that is why there are partnerships and people for whom sexuality no longer plays a role in and after menopause.
Conversations with the partner or a familiar listener should be a cornerstone of the "load or pleasure question". Both men's and gynaecologists can help to initiate conversations or to guide the way to the right interlocutor. The extent to which medications, whether natural or synthetic, can help must be discussed with the attending physician. The help for self-help goes through the mouth – and not through the stomach.